The Freedom of Chastity

"Oh, that you would bear with me in a little folly--and indeed you do bear with me. ² For I am jealous for you with godly jealousy. For I have betrothed you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ."

2 Corinthians 11:1-2

When a couple was betrothed in ancient Jewish society, the man and woman after a legal ceremony were viewed as a married couple - though they did not live together or consummate the marriage until their wedding.  This betrothal period could last a year or more, until the father of the groom gave the command.  The husband had been preparing a place for them to reside in, typically a room attached to his father's home.  The bride also prepared during that time, ensuring she had a dress for her wedding, as well as gathering clothing and items to take with her on the day of her wedding.  As the wedding drew near, her close female friends kept a watchful eye on her.  Both husband and wife were to remain sexually chaste, having entered into the covenant of marriage.

Paul laboured to preach the Gospel of Jesus Christ to all who would listen.  Those Jews or Gentiles who believed the Gospel, repented, and trusted in Christ were born again and became part of the Body of Christ - the Church.  Jesus had ascended to heaven, but the church remained on the earth.  Like the betrothal period of an ancient marriage covenant, the New Covenant in Christ's blood involved a period of physical separation.  Jesus is in heaven, awaiting the day and the hour the Father bids Him to return for the church who is pictured as a bride.  Jesus has not left us alone, for the Holy Spirit has been sent to fill every believer.  Paul emphasised the necessity of purity and chastity of believers for Christ's sake, so when Jesus is united with His Church she would be as a chaste virgin presented to her husband.  He kept a watchful eye on his fellow Christians, ensuring they were not wooed away by illicit lovers, and bid them reserve their hearts for Christ alone.

The commitment of betrothal and marriage had a massive impact on how people lived.  The Jews traditionally were restrictive concerning interactions and physical contact between members of the opposite sex.  Being betrothed took this up a notch.  Instead of being a restriction, betrothal and marriage was an invitation to express love and desire in a way which would have been sin outside the confines of the marriage relationship.  Our modern western society in many ways sees marriage as being restrictive and confined, and in a worldly sense this is true to a point.  From a spiritual vantage point, however, those who give their bodies sexually outside of marriage place themselves in bondage to sin.  An exclusive relationship need not be restrictive, but is a safe place for love to flourish.  Only in the marriage relationship can sex be pure and the bed undefiled (Hebrews 13:4).

Our relationship with Christ is not a sexual one, but the intimate relationship between as husband and wife is a picture of the close relationship God desires to cultivate with us.  Instead of loving the world or the things of the world, we are to place our affections on Christ first and foremost.  We are to trust Him rather than lean on our own understanding.  We are to love what God loves and hate what He hates.   We must guard our hearts, put off the old man, be renewed in the spirit of our minds, and put on the new man created in righteousness and true holiness (Eph. 4:20-27)  In Christ we discover the freedom and divine power to deny ourselves, take up our cross daily, and follow Jesus.  By His grace we can make a positive impact on others and remain unspotted from the world (James 1:27).  Our eyes must be fixed on Jesus alone, for it is He who gives rest to our souls.  Sin brings bondage and death, but Jesus gives life and freedom forevermore.  When we reserve ourselves for Jesus, He reveals more of Himself to us.

Do you suffer from a wandering heart which leads to wandering thoughts and eyes?  If you are a Christian, you have been spoken for; you have already been taken.  In fact, we have been purchased with the precious blood of Jesus Christ, having entered into Christ's Covenant by grace through faith.  God has washed and purified us, and He will someday present us before the Father with exceeding joy.  Let us be circumspect and wise, knowing we have a responsibility to refuse all potential suitors who beg us to run off with them.  May we say with the Shulamite in Song of Songs 7:10, "I am my beloved's, and his desire is toward me."  In light of Christ's eternal, infinite love, all other worldly loves fade away.  Jesus is coming soon, and may we be found chaste and loyal to Him when He calls us home.