Feeling Sorry?

"Now I rejoice, not that you were made sorry, but that your sorrow led to repentance. For you were made sorry in a godly manner, that you might suffer loss from us in nothing. ¹⁰ For godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation, not to be regretted; but the sorrow of the world produces death."

2 Corinthians 7:9-10

Everyone knows what it feels like to feel sorry, to experience regret over mistakes we were personally responsible for.  We have also felt sorry for people because they were going through a difficult trial or season we had nothing to do with--or felt sorry because we realised we were powerless to change the situation.  The Strong's Concordance connects the Greek word translated sorry with distress and sadness.  Paul distinguished between a godly sorrow and the sorrow of the world.  While sorrow could be generally called a transient grief or a "bad feeling for everyone, the following results help identify what sort of sorrow we have experienced.

One of the definitions of "sorry" in Webster's 1828 dictionary is most appropriate for the human condition:  "poor; mean; vile; worthless; as a sorry slave; a sorry excuse."  We can feel sorrow but in comparison to God we are sorry indeed because we commonly make mistakes, are forgetful, unfaithful, and foolish.  Feeling sorry about these things is an appropriate response!  As children we are taught to apologise, to say sorry to those we have offended or hurt.  Conversely, we feel it is the duty of offenders to not merely say they are sorry but to really mean it--a very subjective aspect of conflict resolution for children and adults alike.  We mistakenly make how badly the other person feels as their dutiful penance to earn our forgiveness.

In the first letter Paul wrote to church in Corinth he took them to task for sinful behaviour rife in their church.  Upon receiving that correspondence they were cut to the heart and expressed great sorrow for their errors.  Paul rejoiced not that they were sorry or felt bad, but their response revealed they sorrowed in a godly manner because it led to repentance.  Their repentance went beyond feeling bad about themselves and what they had done, and this is the hopeless tomb where worldly sorrow dumps and holds everyone hostage.  Godly sorrow about our sorry selves leads to acknowledging our sin, our need to change for the better, and looks to God for forgiveness, cleansing, and seeks reconciliation with those we have wronged.  Paul shared the life-changing results of godly sorrow in 2 Corinthians 7:11:  "For observe this very thing, that you sorrowed in a godly manner: what diligence it produced in you, what clearing of yourselves, what indignation, what fear, what vehement desire, what zeal, what vindication! In all things you proved yourselves to be clear in this matter."

Sinners deserve to feel sorry but do not deserve forgiveness.  Praise the LORD through faith in Jesus feelings of sorrow for our sins move us to repent and receive the gift of forgiveness God's grace.  Repentance, having received forgiveness according to God's promise, is intentional to make necessary changes to ensure the sin is not repeated, restitution was made as necessary, appropriate boundaries are set for the future, and steps are taken to live above reproach.  A godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation not to be regretted.  The most regrettable things can thus be redeemed in a believer's life for God's glorious purposes and great rejoicing.  Jesus compared repentance to a lost sheep being found by his rejoicing shepherd in Luke 15:7:  "I say to you that likewise there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine just persons who need no repentance."  Only God is able to turn tears of sorrow into joy.