Resolute in Love

"One person esteems one day above another; another esteems every day alike. Let each be fully convinced in his own mind."

Romans 14:5

By God's grace He has given Christians liberty to follow the leading of the Holy Spirit, to serve and walk in love towards all inside and outside the church.  Though Christians are all united in Christ as one body, every person is unique and has their own perspective, convictions and corresponding actions.  My introduction to Christian liberty came when my friend's mum asserted I was listening to the "devil's music" because I enjoyed listening to a cassette of a metal band purchased from a local Christian bookstore.  After presenting the lyrics to defend myself and band from such slander, she resolutely held her position:  "It's the devil's music.  It has an evil beat."  In that moment I was faced with a temptation other people usher into our lives with different opinions and convictions:  to love her despite our disagreement, or to lose respect for her and brand her an enemy of thrash metal.  Isn't it ironic we can easily be offended that others are offended?

The music we listen to, our style of dress, way of parenting, even the days we celebrate or choose to ignore are all opportunities for us to make choices with the intent to honour Jesus Christ and to show love to others.  We have liberty in Christ to prefer one translation of the Bible over another, but this does not give us the freedom to bash or belittle those who tout their preferred rendering.  One person sees the decoration of a Christmas tree or hanging a wreath as pagan customs and another sees it as a fun family tradition.  Let everyone be fully convinced in their own mind in the way they celebrate Christmas or choose not to celebrate it at all.  What others do should be a little thing by comparison to choosing to live our lives before the LORD by faith in Him.  It speaks to our motivation if our whole point of doing something is because we know it bothers someone else--much to our enjoyment and amusement.  This reeks of flesh.

It occurred to me recently the traditional American celebration of Halloween of dressing up and going to local houses trick-or-treating is no closer connected with paganism than rabbits and eggs are connected with Christ's resurrection celebrated by many on Easter.  There are likely people who frown on dressing up on a certain day (when some kids enjoy "dress up" most days) who have no problem with their child participating in an egg hunt.  Let each be fully convinced in their own mind and not condemn others for having convictions different than their own or when choices of others seem inconsistent.  Because humans tend to extremes, it is possible people who have come out of lifestyles they now recognise as sinful swing far to the opposite to avoid even the appearance of evil.  This was the case with my heavy-metal-hating friend's Christian mum.  She had been a fan of rock music growing up that coaxed her into sinful ways, and those electric guitars took her right back to a place she never wanted to go.  Good on her for not going back and keeping close to Jesus.

Knowing we ought not to condemn our brethren whom God makes to stand and we will all be judged by Christ, Paul wrote in Romans 14:13-14, "Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather resolve this, not to put a stumbling block or a cause to fall in our brother's way. ¹⁴ I know and am convinced by the Lord Jesus that there is nothing unclean of itself; but to him who considers anything to be unclean, to him it is unclean."  Paul was convinced of something we must grow to learn, that there is nothing unclean of itself.  We have likely many times, like Pharisees before us, imagined something to be unclean of itself when God has given us and others liberty and purity.  It is good not to do things which can stumble, offend or weaken ourselves or a brother--and at the same time it is not loving to cater to legalists by caving to their demands out of fear of man.  Whenever we are compelled to judge a brother due to different convictions, let us first take aim on examining our own hearts and motivation.  God teaches us to gladly forgo our liberties to demonstrate love to others without drawing attention to our sacrifice, seeing Jesus gave Himself as a sacrifice for our sins.  This is the true freedom in Christ--not the freedom to listen to a style of music or dressing up for a party on Halloween--to resolutely love one another as Jesus loves us.