12 October 2025
Clean and Righteous
06 October 2025
Running Our Course
Recently I read a comment from a high-profile celebrity going through divorce that continues to come to mind. In her words, the relationship had simply "run its course." While it is true marriages do not always last a lifetime, her statement betrays a view of marriage that falls woefully short of God's design for it. Those who justify divorce for marriages that have "run their course" are often more likely to default to this option in future marriage(s). Traditional wedding vows of a bride and groom used to include, "Till death do us part" and this is the worthy course of marriage--a commitment for a lifetime.
From a biblical point of view, marriage is intended to be a covenant between one man and one woman before God who ordained this special relationship. It is more than the promise of love, fidelity and monogamy, for it is a spiritual union where God joins a man and woman together and makes them one flesh. When we love one another as Jesus loves us, a married couple is divinely helped in bearing one another's burdens, forgiving each other and working through conflicts. Divorce was never part of God's original design for marriage, but Jesus said it was made legally permissible due to the hardness of people's hearts (Matthew 19:8). A married couple may say their marriage has "run its course" yet the Bible shows God's intended course for their relationship to endure their entire lives.
Those who go into marriage believing marriage could run its course in 7 months, 12 or 28 years should not be surprised when it does not last half that long. I suspect many people whose marriages have ended in divorce had every intention--from before they uttered their vows to years into marriage--to do everything in their power to make it last. And perhaps they did. The point I feel compelled to make is to affirm the covenant of marriage ought to be approached as a lifelong commitment before God and one another, and when both partners have a relationship with Jesus Christ He helps us to do what willpower, hard work, vows and the Law of Moses could never do: to continue in marriage until death do you part. Even if you are a Christian and your partner is not, the love of Jesus in and through you will make a huge positive difference in your marriage and family.
What Paul wrote in 2 Timothy 4:7-8 inspires God-fearing people to live well and this includes a marriage relationship: "I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith: 8 henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day: and not to me only, but unto all them also that love his appearing." Winning at marriage does not come from fighting with your spouse but surrender before the LORD whilst looking to Jesus for wisdom, strength and humility. God who enabled Paul to prevail over great difficulties during his life and ministry helps everyone who trusts and obeys Him. We will be richly rewarded by God, not for having the longest marriage, but for faith and obedience to God by His grace.
22 September 2025
Let Us Reason Together
14 June 2025
Praying for Peace
09 June 2025
Unbelief our Adversary
25 May 2025
The Dehumanising Trend
16 May 2025
When Progress is to Step Away
13 April 2025
Your Gut or God?
11 March 2025
Esteem God Highly
27 January 2025
Keeping Receipts
22 January 2025
God's Love Casts Out Fear
13 January 2025
Jesus Speaks for Himself
02 December 2024
Divine Pardon
25 November 2024
A Lonely, Broken Heart
22 November 2024
Drawn By Love
08 November 2024
Fresh Vision?
01 November 2024
Resolute in Love
27 October 2024
God Helps Us
08 September 2024
True Freedom
The phrase, "Be anything you want to be" suggests listening to Audiobooks (or reading eBooks) liberates us from the drudgery of being ourselves and provides an opportunity to live vicariously through the stories we hear. I have read many books during my life, but I cannot say any of them made me to be anything besides what I already was. What I can say based on a biblical worldview is the humanistic messaging that you are "the captain of your ship" or can "be anything you want" is not liberating at all: this is the epitome of bondage to self. It makes me a slave to my own desires and lusts; it is a prison that binds me to my failures, weakness, ill-discipline and sin as self-defining. This promise of freedom and empowerment is empty as chaff in the wind, having no potential for life that satisfies, is fruitful or endures.