Repentance, Not Penance
When someone wronged me as a child, I often looked for visible signs of contrition before I would accept their apology and forgive them. We all realised (even as children) people can say things they do not necessarily mean. We said "please" and "sorry" because our parents told us we needed to, and doing what we were told was the means of earning good standing with them again. This, of course, is not the biblical model of forgiveness made possible by God after we are born again by faith in Jesus. Trying to ensure people prove they really are sorry and have learned their lesson is not the basis of our forgiving of others, but Jesus has freely forgiven us according to His grace. People are more likely to adopt a system of imposing penance on those who do wrong or put a burden on themselves rather than freely forgiving others and receiving forgiveness by God's grace. The definition of "penance" in the Webster's 1828 Dictionary is as follows: ...