The Freedom of Chastity

"Oh, that you would bear with me in a little folly--and indeed you do bear with me. ² For I am jealous for you with godly jealousy. For I have betrothed you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ."

2 Corinthians 11:1-2

When a couple was betrothed in ancient Jewish society, the man and woman after a legal ceremony were viewed as a married couple - though they did not live together or consummate the marriage until their wedding.  This betrothal period could last a year or more, until the father of the groom gave the command.  The husband had been preparing a place for them to reside in, typically a room attached to his father's home.  The bride also prepared during that time, ensuring she had a dress for her wedding, as well as gathering clothing and items to take with her on the day of her wedding.  As the wedding drew near, her close female friends kept a watchful eye on her.  Both husband and wife were to remain sexually chaste, having entered into the covenant of marriage.

Paul laboured to preach the Gospel of Jesus Christ to all who would listen.  Those Jews or Gentiles who believed the Gospel, repented, and trusted in Christ were born again and became part of the Body of Christ - the Church.  Jesus had ascended to heaven, but the church remained on the earth.  Like the betrothal period of an ancient marriage covenant, the New Covenant in Christ's blood involved a period of physical separation.  Jesus is in heaven, awaiting the day and the hour the Father bids Him to return for the church who is pictured as a bride.  Jesus has not left us alone, for the Holy Spirit has been sent to fill every believer.  Paul emphasised the necessity of purity and chastity of believers for Christ's sake, so when Jesus is united with His Church she would be as a chaste virgin presented to her husband.  He kept a watchful eye on his fellow Christians, ensuring they were not wooed away by illicit lovers, and bid them reserve their hearts for Christ alone.

The commitment of betrothal and marriage had a massive impact on how people lived.  The Jews traditionally were restrictive concerning interactions and physical contact between members of the opposite sex.  Being betrothed took this up a notch.  Instead of being a restriction, betrothal and marriage was an invitation to express love and desire in a way which would have been sin outside the confines of the marriage relationship.  Our modern western society in many ways sees marriage as being restrictive and confined, and in a worldly sense this is true to a point.  From a spiritual vantage point, however, those who give their bodies sexually outside of marriage place themselves in bondage to sin.  An exclusive relationship need not be restrictive, but is a safe place for love to flourish.  Only in the marriage relationship can sex be pure and the bed undefiled (Hebrews 13:4).

Our relationship with Christ is not a sexual one, but the intimate relationship between as husband and wife is a picture of the close relationship God desires to cultivate with us.  Instead of loving the world or the things of the world, we are to place our affections on Christ first and foremost.  We are to trust Him rather than lean on our own understanding.  We are to love what God loves and hate what He hates.   We must guard our hearts, put off the old man, be renewed in the spirit of our minds, and put on the new man created in righteousness and true holiness (Eph. 4:20-27)  In Christ we discover the freedom and divine power to deny ourselves, take up our cross daily, and follow Jesus.  By His grace we can make a positive impact on others and remain unspotted from the world (James 1:27).  Our eyes must be fixed on Jesus alone, for it is He who gives rest to our souls.  Sin brings bondage and death, but Jesus gives life and freedom forevermore.  When we reserve ourselves for Jesus, He reveals more of Himself to us.

Do you suffer from a wandering heart which leads to wandering thoughts and eyes?  If you are a Christian, you have been spoken for; you have already been taken.  In fact, we have been purchased with the precious blood of Jesus Christ, having entered into Christ's Covenant by grace through faith.  God has washed and purified us, and He will someday present us before the Father with exceeding joy.  Let us be circumspect and wise, knowing we have a responsibility to refuse all potential suitors who beg us to run off with them.  May we say with the Shulamite in Song of Songs 7:10, "I am my beloved's, and his desire is toward me."  In light of Christ's eternal, infinite love, all other worldly loves fade away.  Jesus is coming soon, and may we be found chaste and loyal to Him when He calls us home.

The Answer Who Comforts

Nothing is too hard for God.  What is impossible with men is possible with God.  Psalm 135:6 says, "Whatever the LORD pleases He does, in heaven and in earth, in the seas and in all deep places."  God has absolute power, and His power is always governed by justice, righteousness, mercy, grace, and love.  Such power would corrupt any mere man, but God is more than a man.  He is altogether not like us - finite beings conceived in sin - yet He created man is His own image.

God's ways are past finding out, and His decisions and motives are righteous without question.  Daniel 4:35 records the observations of Nebuchadnezzar, a man whose eyes were opened to God and His glorious ways:  "All the inhabitants of the earth are reputed as nothing; He does according to His will in the army of heaven and among the inhabitants of the earth. No one can restrain His hand or say to Him, "What have You done?"  We have as much right to question God as our ability to stop Him!  We cannot rightly ask, but we still do!  Familiarity and ignorance can breed contempt.  Romans 9:20-24 says, "But indeed, O man, who are you to reply against God? Will the thing formed say to him who formed it, "Why have you made me like this?" ²¹ Does not the potter have power over the clay, from the same lump to make one vessel for honor and another for dishonor? ²² What if God, wanting to show His wrath and to make His power known, endured with much longsuffering the vessels of wrath prepared for destruction, ²³ and that He might make known the riches of His glory on the vessels of mercy, which He had prepared beforehand for glory, ²⁴ even us whom He called, not of the Jews only, but also of the Gentiles?"

Today I was asked by a child, "How could God allow that three-year-old on the beach to die?"  I do not know.  I do know sin has come into the world and death by sin, but I do not have a sure answer to the specific question - especially to those who are grieving a terrible loss.  Even if I knew all things and could explain God's plan in full, it would be unsatisfactory to those blinded by pain or unbelief.  I can only turn my eyes to the revealed character of God who allowed His own Son Jesus Christ to die as a revelation of His divine love.  As Jesus placed Himself willingly in His Father's hands to lay down His life for sinners, I know I can do the same.  Answers in themselves do not bring comfort:  only God comforts.  Time does not heal all wounds.  But the God of the impossible is a healer, a restorer of souls, a giver of life.

We do not need to defend God, nor did He make man responsible to explain why He does what He does.  But as His child I am called to trust Him, draw near to Him in faith, and thank Him.  I ought to testify of the good, gracious, and just character of God who loved me and gave Himself for me.  We should not be cavalier with the pain of others, and we should walk softly around wounded hearts.  I am convinced God is able to heal my hurts as I cast my cares upon Him.  I have tasted, I have seen, I have experienced God's comfort.  No matter the struggle or pain, I want to echo the immortal words of Job in Job 1:21, "Naked I came from my mother's womb, and naked shall I return there. The LORD gave, and the LORD has taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD."

Satanic Suggestion

For a discipleship course at Calvary Chapel Sydney, we have been reading through an out-of-print edition of Spiritual Leadership.  It is lamentable how the more recent versions have been stripped of original force and power, but thankfully there are plenty of copies for purchase available online.

I was struck with the perceptive wisdom of Sanders concerning the tactics the devil uses to stunt the growth, sap the power, and reduce the fruitfulness of Christians.  Paul was not ignorant of Satan's devices, and neither should any follower of Jesus Christ be.  Satan shamelessly appeals to the opinions of others and our flesh, and works tirelessly to distract and confuse.  Causing us to yield in our pursuit of Christ for even a moment lends him our ears and access to our hearts.  Sanders wrote this in his Christian classic:

The epic contest of Moses with Pharaoh affords a classic example of the progressive temptation to compromise.  When Pharaoh discerned Moses' inflexible purpose to take Israel out of Egypt to worship the Lord, he used all his wiles to frustrate him.  "Worship God if you will," was the first suggestion, "but there is no need to leave Egypt to do it.  Worship God where you are."  The modern counterpart would be "Don't neglect religion. But there is no need to be narrow and make a complete break with the world."

When that approach failed, Pharaoh's suggestion was:  "If you must go out of Egypt to worship, there is no need to go very far away.  Just go outside the borders."  "Religion is good and necessary, but you are not called on to be fanatical about it.  Stay as near to the world as you can."

His next proposal played upon natural affection.  "Let the men go and worship, but there is no need for the woman and children to accompany them."  "Break with the world yourself, if you must, but don't be so extreme as to interfere with the worldly advancement of your family by making them conform to your Victorian standards."

His final attempt was an appeal to their covetousness and love of material things:  "Go if you must, but let your flocks and herds remain in Egypt while you go to worship."  "Don't allow your legitimate religious convictions to conflict with your business interests and activities." (Sanders, J. Oswald. Spiritual Leadership. Rev. ed. Chicago: Moody, 1980. 159-160. Print.)

These all seem like reasonable requests from the world's perspective, but for a follower of Jesus none of them are acceptable.  Satan suggests, but God commands!  Moses was resolved not to leave a hoof behind in obeying God, and we should follow his resolute example!

Ten Fingers, Ten Commandments

Our lives have the potential to make a huge positive influence on others.  For those in church ministry, it may feel like you aren't making much of a difference.  As I think about those who invested time in me as a kid, I remember and appreciate their sacrifice of time and faithfulness to God and His Word.  God is able to use straight-laced folks and complete characters to impact others for His glory.

Ricardo Medina was a man I will not forget.  He was called by his friends the "crazy Cuban," and would wear a cowboy hat, boots and trench coat to church every week.  I heard stories about him going to local churches and being asked to leave because of his wardrobe.  All I know is the man loved the LORD, and he had the heart of a servant.  What I remember the most was the time he stood in as youth leader on a Sunday evening at church.  I was in grade 7 or 8, and though decades have passed I have always remembered the lesson: Ricardo taught us the 10 Commandments using our fingers.  His lesson I have taught to my own children, and many others besides.

I do not know if Ricardo still walks the earth today - seeing as that was about 30 years ago - but if he does I would thank him and tell him I appreciate the lesson he shared in that cramped, panelled trailer  of a classroom.  A man other churches refused entry God used to administer the practical truth of God's perfect Law.  Psalm 19:7-11 reads, "The law of the LORD is perfect, converting the soul; the testimony of the LORD is sure, making wise the simple; ⁸ the statutes of the LORD are right, rejoicing the heart; the commandment of the LORD is pure, enlightening the eyes; ⁹ the fear of the LORD is clean, enduring forever; the judgments of the LORD are true and righteous altogether. ¹⁰ More to be desired are they than gold, yea, than much fine gold; sweeter also than honey and the honeycomb. ¹¹ Moreover by them Your servant is warned, and in keeping them there is great reward."  God's Law reveals our sinfulness and desperate need for a Saviour and forgiveness.  We must see our filth before we seek cleansing, and we must recognise our grave illness before we desire a cure.

The 10 Commandments are listed in Exodus 20:1-17.  If you are interested in how to learn the 10 Commandments in order in less than 5 minutes and remember for a lifetime, here you go - compliments of Ricardo Medina!  Place your hands in front of you, palms facing up.  Starting from right thumb to left thumb:

1.  Picture a red "no smoking" type sign on your right thumb.  "Thou shalt have no other gods before Me."
2. See how your pointer finger has three segments like a totem pole?  That is an idol.  "Thou shalt not make for yourself any graven image."
3. Keeping your pointer extended, hold out your middle finger to make a "V."  This reminds us, "Thou shalt not take the name of the LORD your God in vain."
4. Imagine your finger is full of holes, like Swiss cheese.  "Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy."
5. Your right pinky is a small finger, and a locket is very small.  In your locket is a tiny picture of your dad and mum.  "Honour your father and your mother."
6. Make a fist and extend the pinky on your left hand.  It could stab like a knife!  "Thou shalt not murder."
7. The next finger is your "ring" finger, which reminds us of God's covenant of marriage.  "Thou shalt not commit adultery."
8. The middle finger is your longest finger, like a "steel" pipe.  "Thou shalt not steal."
9. This second finger is called the pointing finger, and we sin by false accusation.  "Thou shalt not bear false witness (lie)."
10. When you rub your forefinger and thumb together, it is a sign for money.  To lust after wealth is to covet!  "Thou shalt not covet."

There it is!  Now you too can remember and share the truth of God with others, a legacy which - like God's Word - will endure forever!