The Weaker Vessel

"Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered."

1 Peter 3:7

Breakdowns in communication occur when we do not listen carefully to what someone says.  How far a misunderstanding can blow things out of proportion!  I find when we take the time to actually listen to what someone else is saying without jumping to conclusions and mentally formulating a rebuttal halfway through a sentence, much confusion could be avoided.  Most of the people offended by the Bible do not actually know the Bible, but have picked up fragments twisted out of context.  They have been hurt or disillusioned by people who claimed to be Christians.  A wall is put up against the Bible or any "fundamentalist," while bitterness and hatred festers under the surface.  God is resented and rejected because of the unloving conduct of people who supposedly have been His representatives on earth.  It is a sad truth that much evil has been justified in the name of God.  But flaws in people does not mean the Bible is flawed.  The objective truth of the scripture is often repugnant to those unable to spiritually discern it.

I remember back to my Sunday School days and the resentment many of the girls carried in being called "the weaker vessel."  Arguments ensued of who could run faster, win at arm wrestling, or fight better in war.  Back and forth the barbs went, touching on everything from giving birth to mental fortitude.  But these heated discussions only served to create division when God intended to promote unity.  Comparison and judgments according to sight always divide.  Unfortunately, the whole discussion was predicated upon a misunderstanding of the text.  Peter never says a woman or the wife IS the weaker vessel.  Read the passage again.  Peter says that a husband ought to honour his wife "as to the weaker vessel."  The use of "as" reveals Peter is using a metaphor to make a point.  For instance, the way that a person handles a stainless steel water bottle and delicate stemware is very different.  At the soccer ground, the players drink out of their water bottles and throw them carelessly to the ground.  The worst thing that can happen to that bottle is a scratch or dent.  But no one in their right mind would ever take a drink out of fine crystal and toss it to the ground.  Peter is saying that husbands should honour their wives with this gentle distinction.

Fine crystal is valuable.  It is also breakable and should be treated with care.  A person who cares about their crystal does not gather all the stemware off the table in their arms and dump it clumsily in the sink to be washed.  Peter exhorts men to be gentle and careful with their wives.  "Woman" is not synonymous for "weak."  God has made men and women distinct and are both equally loved and valued by God.  Women should not use their sex as an excuse to gain advantage or to avoid responsibility, nor should men use their physical or emotional constitution to domineer their wives. Paul writes in Ephesians 5:18-21, "And do not be drunk with wine, in which is dissipation; but be filled with the Spirit, ¹⁹ speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord, ²⁰ giving thanks always for all things to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, ²¹ submitting to one another in the fear of God."  Our motivation for doing good and loving one another is not because we perceive someone else as weaker, but in obedience for the glory and honour of God.  As we humble ourselves, preferring other people over self, we follow Christ's example.

Marriages fail when husbands and wives fail to think, speak, and act in a biblical manner.  Marriage is a relationship designed by God between one man and one woman.  Marriage is the joining of an imperfect man and an imperfect woman - both with baggage, character flaws, weaknesses, strengths, and blind spots.  God puts a love in the hearts of His people that transcends the physical realm.  When we walk in Christ's love, we treat others as we would be treated.  We love even as Christ has loved us.  Instead of keeping record of wrongs or resenting differences, may all heed the words of Proverbs 10:12:  "Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all sins."  Love is a powerful thing, to cover all sins.  No matter how strong or weak you feel, this is a love you need.  It is in weakness God's strength is perfectly revealed.  2 Corinthians 12:9-10 God revealed to Paul, "And He said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness." Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. ¹⁰ Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ's sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong."  This is a love only known through knowing Jesus Christ as LORD and Saviour.  I thank God for His love and grace!

When I am weak, I am strong by God's grace.  When my strength ends, that is when God is free to supply my lack.  Let us admit our weakness so we might walk in God's strength to love as we ought!

The Big Move

Over the years I have helped a lot of people move.  The biggest move I was ever a part of, however, was moving with my family from San Diego to Sydney.  My wife, our family, and more people than I can name helped us with packing, storing, shipping, and delivering.  Before we could move, a lot of preparation was involved.  Having to move brings to light how much stuff you have and how much stuff you don't really need.  When a friend of mine moved to Africa, he spoke of this phenomenon.  We simply don't realise how much stuff we have accumulated over the years until we are confronted by the moving experience.  Slowly but surely cabinets, drawers, closets, and shelves start to fill up and overflow.  So much of the stuff we tossed out or gave away was of use, but we rarely or never used it.

Accumulation is part of life on earth.  "Accumulation" is defined as "an increase by natural growth or addition."  We accumulate stuff, knowledge, memories of experiences good and bad, even body fat!  Some of the things we accumulate are positive and useful, but a lot of it is simply junk which serves no beneficial purpose.  It would be worth next to nothing at a garage sale.  It seems to me it is a lot easier to clean out a closet than my thoughts, yet sometimes I struggle to even straighten out my closet.  If we can let the closet or the garage become choked with clutter, I should assume the same could happen concerning the spiritual issues of the heart.  Our lives can be packed with activities, but are we grasping for what truly matters?  Wrong ways of thinking, speaking, and coping are certain to accumulate in a human heart.  It takes divine illumination from the Word of God to reveal just what needs to go.

Very few people are actually ready to move when it is time to move.  Though a family may know the move is scheduled, most people are ill-prepared when the moment comes.  Often much is not yet packed, furniture has not been disassembled, items have not been organised, and there is a frantic pace of action in the last days before a move.  Decisions about keeping and throwing out are still being made hours before the keys need to be handed over.  I don't know how many times I have helped people move over the years, but people have a major similarity when it comes to moving:  they are largely unprepared.  I think the same can be said of many people when it comes from leaving this earthly shell of flesh and being ushered into eternity through physical death.  When it comes to dying, often people simply aren't ready.  Unless they have prepared their hearts and been born again through repentance and trusting in Christ, they are unprepared for their final move.

Jesus says in John 14:1-3, "Let not your heart be troubled; you believe in God, believe also in Me. ² In My Father's house are many mansions; if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. ³ And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you to Myself; that where I am, there you may be also."  I don't want my heart and mind cluttered with the useless junk of this life when I have a Saviour preparing a place for me where nothing of the earth can be brought.  I don't want to be debating what needs to go and what I want to keep when it is time to put off this earthly tent and go to my permanent home in heaven.  I don't want the dazzling trinkets of this world to take my eyes off the prize of the upward call of Christ.  I praise God He has removed the rich gleam of the earthly so I might treasure Him above all.  It is good to have our hearts and minds purged and uncluttered of worldly accumulation!

Seeing and Eating

Embracing doubt robs people of experiencing God's blessings.  Many people have heard about or read concerning the peace, joy, forgiveness, and love of God, but unbelief keeps them from receiving.  A perfect illustration of this is seen in 2 Kings 7.  The army of Syria had besieged the city of Samaria, and the inhabitants were suffering from a grievous famine.  The situation had become so dire, people were boiling and eating their own children to survive.  After seeing the desperation of the people, the king of Israel stormed over to the man of God, Elisha.  The king sought to kill Elisha, blaming him and God for the terrible state of the city.  2 Kings 7:1-2 reads, "Then Elisha said, "Hear the word of the LORD. Thus says the LORD: 'Tomorrow about this time a seah of fine flour shall be sold for a shekel, and two seahs of barley for a shekel, at the gate of Samaria.' " ² So an officer on whose hand the king leaned answered the man of God and said, "Look, if the LORD would make windows in heaven, could this thing be?" And he said, "In fact, you shall see it with your eyes, but you shall not eat of it."

Elisha proclaimed the word of the LORD:  in 24 hours, the famine would be completely over.  Grain in abundance would be available at the open gate of Samaria.  The king's assistant voiced his doubt aloud:  "Even if God made windows in heaven, how is that possible?"  For a long time the people had languished away in the famine, and therefore Elisha's words seemed like idle fantasy.  The officer's belief in the power and salvation of God had eroded away.  Elisha said, "You shall see it with your eyes, but you shall not eat of it."  Such is the effect of unbelief.  We read in the Bible of the promises and provision of God.  But if we are focused on our weakness, inability, and the seeming impossibility of fulfillment, we will never taste and see that the LORD is good.  We see changed lives all around us by the power of the Gospel, but unbelief insulates us from God's touch.  Case after case of God's provision and deliverance may parade before us, but doubts prevent us from experiencing it personally.

How tragic it would be to be starving at a dinner table piled with tantalising foods!  This is the condition of many people who come to church and hear God's Word faithfully preached.  A gourmet meal is spread before people when they open the pages of God's Word by the inspiration of the Holy Spirit.  The napkin is laid across the lap, the food is presented beautifully, and refreshing water and wine are poured into glasses.  All around people begin to partake of the delicious meal.  But unbelief keeps a person from eating.  It is a lash which ties hands to the back of the chair and sews shut the mouth.  You may have sat down hungry, but now you are famished!  Frustration grips the heart.  It would be better to have stayed home and slept until noon than to sit through another sermon without belief.  Maybe you can relate.  Like the king of Israel, you might blame God for your hunger pangs.  But the reality is, God is the only one who has the words of life.  Jesus is the Bread of Life who supplies Living Water which satisfies our souls.  Whoever by faith receives of Christ's body and atoning blood will live forever.  God is not to be blamed for offering gifts you refuse to receive through unbelief.  Many see with unbelieving eyes, but few hearts trust and eat.

The word of the LORD through Elisha was fulfilled.  That night, the Assyrian army fled at the sound of a great army advancing towards them in the darkness.  Thinking the Samaritans had hired mercenaries to defeat them, the entire army fled and left all their tents, weapons, animals, food, and supplies behind them.  2 Kings 7:16-20 tells us, "Then the people went out and plundered the tents of the Syrians. So a seah of fine flour was sold for a shekel, and two seahs of barley for a shekel, according to the word of the LORD. ¹⁷ Now the king had appointed the officer on whose hand he leaned to have charge of the gate. But the people trampled him in the gate, and he died, just as the man of God had said, who spoke when the king came down to him. ¹⁸ So it happened just as the man of God had spoken to the king, saying, "Two seahs of barley for a shekel, and a seah of fine flour for a shekel, shall be sold tomorrow about this time in the gate of Samaria." ¹⁹ Then that officer had answered the man of God, and said, "Now look, if the LORD would make windows in heaven, could such a thing be?" And he had said, "In fact, you shall see it with your eyes, but you shall not eat of it." ²⁰ And so it happened to him, for the people trampled him in the gate, and he died."  Even as God had fulfilled his word to end the famine, the life of the unbelieving officer was ended as well.  The officer saw God's salvation but he never ate of the abundance He graciously provided.  His unbelief led to his demise - not in a time of famine - but in a season of great plenty.

Perhaps you have experienced a spiritual famine for a long time.  You have read much but received little.  Even as the children of Israel could not enter into the Promised Land because of their unbelief, you have been unable to follow Christ as a disciple because of the same.  The promises of God remain a unsettling illusion, like cackling spectres in the shadows, instead of the life-supporting and mind-transforming gifts as God intended them.  Confess your unbelief and joyfully await the breaking of the dawn, for a feast waits for you!  It is a feast that will last for eternity, for God's Word will endure forever.  May the words written of Abraham be applicable to every Christian today in Romans 4:20-21:  "He did not waver at the promise of God through unbelief, but was strengthened in faith, giving glory to God, ²¹ and being fully convinced that what He had promised He was also able to perform."  If you have not yet repented and trusted in Christ as Saviour, He has promised eternal life to all who believe in Him.  Open the windows of heaven, Father!  May we both see and eat!

Don't Trade Your Birthright!

The Bible is full of flawed people.  They are displayed in scripture, not so we can criticise and shake our heads at their foolish decisions, but so we might learn from their example.  In every flaw we see a mirror image of ourselves in holy writ, the divine light driving the mist from our eyes to see ourselves in truth.  In my house we have a framed print on the wall that contains a hidden picture within.  At first I didn't see the hidden shapes carefully concealed by the artist.  But once my eyes were opened to them, the silhouette cannot be hidden from my eyes!  This is similar to when the Holy Spirit pulls back the veil from our eyes in reading scripture.  When we read of the stubborn Israelites grumbling in the wilderness, we should see ourselves.  When I see Peter taking his eyes off of Jesus and becoming overwhelmed by the tempest, I see myself.  Even as Esau traded his inheritance for a bowl of lentil stew, yep, that's me.

In the days of Isaac, the first-born son was granted a birthright.  Esau and Jacob were twins born to Isaac.  as the oldest, Esau was automatically given inheritance rights over Jacob.  The leadership and genealogy of the family would pass from the father to the son with the birthright.  Esau was famished after hunting one day and traded the birthright for a bowl of soup.  He viewed the temporary filling of his stomach of greater value than the responsibility and privilege of his lasting inheritance.  Hebrews 12:14-17 exhorts, "Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord: ¹⁵ looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled; ¹⁶ lest there be any fornicator or profane person like Esau, who for one morsel of food sold his birthright. ¹⁷ For you know that afterward, when he wanted to inherit the blessing, he was rejected, for he found no place for repentance, though he sought it diligently with tears."  Because Esau traded his birthright, the family line would pass from Isaac to Jacob instead of from Isaac to Esau.  Esau later regretted his decision, but scripture says he had no place for repentance in his heart.  He wanted the blessing, but he shirked his responsibility.  He ended up without the birthright and blessing, both which were rightfully his by birth!

It is natural for us to look at Esau's poor decision and shake our heads.  What a fool to give up his inheritance for what could not endure!  How ridiculous it seems, that Esau would be so shortsighted to trade his birthright for something to be chewed up, swallowed, and eliminated.  But before we stand in judgment of Esau, let me be so bold as to say that Esau represents every person who has walked the earth.  Every human being has been created in the image of the Almighty God.  Adam enjoyed unbroken fellowship with God as his birthright.  But he embraced sin in the eating of the forbidden fruit and thus forfeited his birthright.  Instead of enjoying and inheriting eternal life and communion with God, Adam received eternal death and separation from God.  Death and sin passed to all men.  Every single person on earth today is a sinner, for the Bible reveals all have sinned.  Yet if we choose to repent and place our trust in Jesus Christ, we can be redeemed through the Gospel of grace.  We are then reconciled with God, are born again by the Holy Spirit, and are restored to fellowship with God.  The promises of God are now our birthright.  God gives joy, peace, wisdom, forgiveness, and all that pertains to life and godliness without measure or partiality.

But the devil is a cunning enemy who never rests from craftily robbing us of our inheritance.  He labours to trick us to justify remaining bitter towards those who may have hurt us.  In harbouring a grudge, we exchange the peace that passes understanding for hatred in our hearts.  A bowl of stew would be a better trade!  The world tempts us to feed the flesh through fornicating with our eyes, minds, and bodies.  Again, we trade the joy of the LORD and unbroken fellowship with God for a moment of physical excitement and pleasure.  We wonder why our Christian witness is weak and unfruitful.  When the birthright passed to Jacob, the family line no longer passed through Esau.  When we trade our spiritual inheritance for the passing pleasures of sin, we should not be surprised when the divine family line no longer passes through us.  Our spiritual impotence is caused by our own stubbornness and rebellion.  It is only when we repent, putting off the old man, being renewed in the spirit of our minds through scripture, and putting on the new man by God's grace that we are again restored to fellowship with God.

Never trade your spiritual birthright for the sin which so easily besets us.  When King Ahab offered money to buy the vineyard of Naboth, the righteous man answered in 1 Kings 21:3, "The LORD forbid that I should give the inheritance of my fathers to you!"  Many Christians have given the surety of their inheritance into the hands of the devil by dabbling or walking in sin.  May we repent so our inheritance and blessing might be restored!  God forbid that we would give up our inheritance for money, a career, the opinions of others, or deceitful sin.  Christ is our inheritance, and may we cling to Him and no other.  Let us pursue peace and holiness with all people, taking care not to fall short of the grace of God.  Praise God for His grace and goodness, for our God is a God of new beginnings!