Strife Prevention

During my time working as a union mechanical insulator, our industry expanded to include firestopping.  This had nothing to do with fighting fires but was intended to contain fires and prevent them from spreading--especially in commercial buildings.  Wherever ducts, pipes and electrical conduit penetrate concrete floors and walls, fire and toxic fumes could potentially spread and endanger the lives of people trying to evacuate.  Most applications required packing the penetration with rock wool and then adding a layer of firestop caulking that, when heated, would expand and fill the gap left by melted pipes or wiring.  Stopping the spread of fire allows more time for people to escape and for firefighters to extinguish the blaze.

While not everyone is trained to install firestopping, it is everyone's calling as children of God to be one who takes action to ensure the fires caused by lies, boasting or gossip stop with us.  As fire is contained by a fire-rated corridor or door, so we are to stand in the gap to recongise gossip and take no part in spreading it.  We sometimes cannot control what we hear, but we are called to ensure we honour God and edify others with our lips.  James showed how our tongues can express sin that spread like a fire and is shockingly destructive in James 3:5-6:  "Even so the tongue is a little member and boasts great things. See how great a forest a little fire kindles! ⁶ And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire by hell."  A spark can set a whole forest alight, and a little gossip can burn relationships to the ground.

Once a fire is "out of control," there is little we can do to try to control it.  Prevention of fires is better than needing to fight them, and the science of fire is fairly straightforward:  a fire needs fuel, oxygen and an ignition source.  If any of these three are not present, fires will not start; if one of these is removed, a fire will cease to burn.  Proverbs 26:20 says, "Where there is no wood, the fire goes out; and where there is no talebearer, strife ceases."  Talebearers, busybodies and gossips--whatever you call them--provide the fuel for strife by saying things about others in a sinful manner.  Proverbs 20:19 gives insight how gossip and flattery can go together:  "He who goes about as a talebearer reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with one who flatters with his lips."  The NIV puts it like this:  "A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid a man who talks too much."  A little gossip can do great damage, and thus we ought to carefully consider what we say and why.  Gossips are like arsonists that find perverse enjoyment in lighting fires.  Such have great pleasure in being in the know, spreading stories and seeing people's eyes widen in wonder at their words.

Proverbs 11:13 states, "A talebearer reveals secrets, but he who is of a faithful spirit conceals a matter."  It is estimated by some nearly half of the bushfires in Australia are deliberately lit, and I suspect a lot of people who hear and spread gossip are unaware they have done or are doing so due to the subtlety of sin.  Gossip, boasting, flattery and lying are easy for us as speaking.  Perhaps those who gossip imagine they are doing good, like firefighters who backburn to eliminate fuel before the summer heat.  Yet the Bible is clear that talebearing--regardless of the justification--only adds fuel to a fire to make it burn out of control and stirs up strife.  There will always be good stories to tell others, but be sure all stories you tell are your own and spoken to edify others.  Let us be those who snuff out the drifting embers or flames of gossip with the refreshing Living Water of the Holy Spirit, guided by love and truth.  We who used to be talebearers can now serve as talestoppers by God's grace and prevent strife.