Contempt Corrupts

I recently read an article from the perspective of a marriage psychologist who said one of the most surefire evidence of a marriage in trouble was when the couple openly shows contempt for one another.  Webster defined "contempt" in the 1828 Dictionary as:  "The act of despising; the act of viewing or considering and treating as mean, vile and worthless; disdain; hatred of what is mean or deemed vile. This word is one of the strongest expressions of a mean opinion which the language affords."  Contempt is the opposite of love, for it is hardened hatred, disgust and without regard or respect for another person.  Contempt is the fruit of unresolved conflict, bitterness, and resentment, and this corrupt outlook reveals a lack of love and grace.

It has been said that "Familiarity breeds contempt," but it has also been observed a closer relationship with someone can result in greater appreciation and mutual respect.  Should our relationships be soured because of contempt for others, it says more about the hardened state of our hearts than dashed expectations or negative judgments we have made concerning others.  In the Bible God is revealed as the unchanging, holy and awesome, longsuffering, gracious and wise.  He made a covenant with Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, and He delivered the Hebrews from slavery Egypt.  God appeared before His people in thick darkness and fire as He spoke to them from Mt. Sinai, and the people trembled before Him.  God gave them the Law through Moses, and the people promised to walk in His ways.

One might think because the almighty God who dwelt in the midst of His people was good and glorious, they would have loved and been loyal to Him always.  This was not the case.  People brought sacrifices  to the temple and priests went into the presence of God, yet they despised God and departed from Him.  When God sent the prophet Ezekiel to speak the word of God to His people, see what God said in Ezekiel 3:5-7:  "For you are not sent to a people of unfamiliar speech and of hard language, but to the house of Israel, ⁶ not to many people of unfamiliar speech and of hard language, whose words you cannot understand. Surely, had I sent you to them, they would have listened to you. ⁷ But the house of Israel will not listen to you, because they will not listen to Me; for all the house of Israel are impudent and hard-hearted."  It had reached such a low point in Israel's relationship with God they would not even listen to Him because of the hardness of their hearts.  Since they would not listen to God, they would not hear Ezekiel either.  Ironically, God said foreign people with a language barrier would be more willing to listen than His own people!

This passage of Scripture in Ezekiel shows the danger of hearing God's word without obedience can lead us to reject Him.  Like the Israelites, we Christians can become dull by much hearing; familiarity with the Bible can make ordinary in our eyes what is miraculous, transformative, and divine truth.  We rarely see ourselves as the entitled, demanding brat who treats his generous and caring parents with contempt, yet this passage shows it is possible unchecked pride in our hearts could result in contempt towards God--and even His faithful servants.  The good and awesome God never changed, but His people can for the worse.  By God's grace may we continually submit ourselves before Him gladly as He sanctifies and refines us to be more like Him:  to respond to hatred with love, to give more grace, to forgive, show mercy and walk humbly as we follow Jesus closely.