Contrition in Repentance

"The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit."

Psalm 34:18

Contrition for sin is an important facet of genuine repentance.  When we were kids, the snide tone or snarky way people said sorry were reasons to reject an apology as insincere.  We wanted people to at least act like they cared when they were apologising for doing wrong.  Conviction of having done wrong is not just a thought that passes through our minds but includes a recurring stab of regret or unsettled feeling inside of us.  The Bible says David's "heart smote him" after he cut off the corner of Saul's robe.  Though he did not kill him as was suggested by his men, his guilty conscience would not let the act pass unnoticed and without repentance.

Contrition is not beating oneself up for doing wrong, for this can be from pride as much as anything.  Webster defined "contrition" as:  "1) The act of grinding or rubbing to powder; 2) Penitence; deep sorrow for sin; grief of heart for having offended and infinitely holy and benevolent God. The word is usually understood to mean genuine penitence, accompanied with a deep sense of ingratitude in the sinner, and sincere resolution to live in obedience to the divine law."  Having a broken and contrite heart due to sin is surprisingly rare--given the amount of opportunity there is for it to be displayed with the amount of sins we are guilty of.  We can be sorry for our sin due to embarrassment, to be exposed as flawed, that we will face negative consequences.  Feeling sorry in itself does not mean we are willing to take any steps to change our ways or do what is right going forward.

I read an article the other day that provided examples of the antithesis of contrition for sin.  The article spoke of a woman who stole an item of clothing from a shop, and after being caught out by security footage admitted she did wrong to the owner of the shop and her online followers.  In her apology she called the theft a "silly mistake," and that "she was only human."  While admitting she knew she did wrong, it seems (unintentionally or not) minimised the severity of her offence by implying, "Everyone does this."  I have noticed a tendency to substitute less confronting words for the sinful reality, like calling someone a "shoplifter" rather than a "thief."  She also offered reasons she claimed contributed to her "silly" decision, that she "had a few drinks" and had a "brain injury" from repeated blows to the head.  These reasons sounded a lot like excuses--quite unlike the contrition David showed when confronted for his sin.  He simply said, "I have sinned against the LORD."  No deflection, explanation, justification or attempt for damage control.  Contrition for sin describes it in all its ugliness before God without trying to soften the blow to protect ourselves or our reputation.

It is possible to sin and feel sorry for ourselves, but godly sorrow and contrition leads to a changed life by God's grace.  After writing a sharp letter to the church in Corinth, Paul followed up with encouragement for the change it fostered in 2 Corinthians 7:9-11:  "Now I rejoice, not that you were made sorry, but that your sorrow led to repentance. For you were made sorry in a godly manner, that you might suffer loss from us in nothing. ¹⁰ For godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation, not to be regretted; but the sorrow of the world produces death. ¹¹ For observe this very thing, that you sorrowed in a godly manner: what diligence it produced in you, what clearing of yourselves, what indignation, what fear, what vehement desire, what zeal, what vindication! In all things you proved yourselves to be clear in this matter."  God is near to those who have a broken and contrite heart, and our LORD is pleased to save such sinners.  Selfish sorrow leads to sinners feeling like victims when it is God who has been wronged.  If our sorrow for sin does not lead to change in our lives for good, it may be we lack contrition before God whom we have sinned against.